Valentine’s Day – After the Final Rose

[My wonderful blog editor (after much coaxing on my part) has finally agreed to do a monthly guest blog post! I truly believe that behind every great writer is an even more magnificent editor. I am beyond enthusiastic to have her on board with me for this PROJECT. I hope that you enjoy this as much as I do! You can find more information about Deborah by clicking here.] As February winds down, we can finally put the month of “romance” to rest for another year. And, thank goodness, I can hear many of you saying, whether you are a wife, a mother, a girl friend, and/or a lover…any sort of woman who deals with a man in her life.  Or maybe you ARE a man, reading this wonderful blog about women who love fashion and motherhood. These unromantic sentiments may surprise those who posted on Facebook about their gorgeous Valentine’s flowers or their shiny new bling from their lover or their husband or their sexy new fling. But the truth is, there were many women out there who were not sighing on Valentine’s Day, but CRYING! I would even go so far as to say that more women cry on Valentine’s Day than on any other day of the year! And I am not just talking about women who are unattached on Valentines Day.  In fact, for many women, being alone on VDay is a far better scenario than having a significant other or even a brand new guy they’ve just started dating disappoint them on the big day. This can happen no matter how much a woman tries to ratchet down any expectations as she ... Read More

How to Sleep With Baby In The Bed

  When you first become parents you make so many decisions. If you choose to co-sleep or not to, here's some tips for how to sleep with baby in the bed. This post contains affiliate links.  How to Sleep With Baby In The Bed I think that every mother that I have talked to has a different opinion regarding this infamous subject, and rightfully so. Every family operates differently and is entitled to their own opinions on whether or not to share their bed with their baby. Either way, this is a recurring topic of conversation which often has my girlfriends and I reflecting on our answers to the question: Is it okay to sleep with baby in the bed? I tend to have very strong opinions regarding this subject that I have held firm since my Branden was a wee little one. I feel that the bed I share with my husband  is our own private place. Branden has his own bedroom with his own bed, and it is important in our house for him to be able to sleep there on his own. Even when he was first born, he slept separately from us in a crib in our bedroom. I just don't think that it is best for my husband and I to have a baby or small child in our bed for a number of reasons. Tips for how to sleep with baby I do understand though, that what works for me may not work for you, and that is the way it should be, because every family operates differently. With those differences in mind, I decided to do some research  so I could present some interesting facts and opinions about ... Read More

My Love Story

February has always been a meaningful month for me and my family not only because it is the "month of love" but also because it is Black History Month. It's significance for me lies in the fact that the evolution of black history is essentially what has allowed my husband and I to be able to openly share the love that we have for one another. Therefore, to shed a different sort of  light on a month that is often overtaken with roses and chocolates, I wanted to share my own special love story, with you. If you have been following my blog from the beginning, you know how my husband and I met. But what many of you don't know is that before my husband and I exchanged numbers and officially "hung out" for the first time,  we crossed paths 3 times within the period of 2 days. With the NYC population being as large as it is, and it's residents constantly on the go, this is an astonishingly rare occurrence. To me, this repeated crossing of paths has always been a sign that we were meant to meet, and when neither of us exchanged numbers on the first or second  meeting, someone from up above kept pulling strings! As things progressed in our relationship , we knew that we wanted to get married one day, so it was naturally time for us to meet each others families. To be honest, I didn't know how my family was going to react to me dating a black man, but I was confident that once they met him they would love him like I did. Chris came home with me to Pittsburgh for Christmas during ... Read More

How to Handle The Terrible Twos

As of lately, I've been feeling quite overwhelmed by a plague that took over my household a little while ago. This plague haunts my dreams and causes knots of panic to form in my stomach. I am told that is called...da...da..da.... "The Terrible Twos." And every single day, I've been asking myself: how to handle the terrible twos? Do I decided that it was time to regroup and come up with a plan. Most days, I feel like Branden's energy is wearing me out, as his screaming and crying over everything that doesn't go his way makes me want to scream and cry.  (I'm not afraid to admit that sometimes I do.) Most of our current conversations go something like this: Branden: “No!” Me: "Yes." Branden: "No!" Me: "You’re not allowed to tell me 'no'!" You get the picture…..and then there are those temper tantrums.... I'm beginning to wonder how my sweet little baby turned into this very cute but very feisty toddler with more opinions than me watching a runway show. In my house this typical "terrible twos" behavior started at one and a half and is continuing full force and with unrelenting gusto on Branden's part, now age three. How to Handle the Terrible Twos In a world where women are supposed to appear pulled together and in control, how's a mama to remain in control? Here's how to handle the terrible twos: Now that I'm trying to cope with Branden's most recent stage, I've come to the realization that this is the type of thing that women need to talk about so ... Read More

Teen Parenting Advice: The Real Deal

Every Mama has heroes in their life. Not every one is lucky enough to call one of them her sister, and her best friend. I hope that her teen parenting advice not only helps, but inspires all of you, as well. My sister Natalie, at 17,  gave birth to the most beautiful baby boy, Shane David.  Being a teen mother is not glamorous or easy by any means, but with lots of support and motivation, it is possible to take control of the situation and still achieve your goals in life. I can honestly say that, at 22, my sister is one of the bravest, strongest, and most beautiful mamanistas that I know. I remember exactly where I was the moment that I found out that my baby sister was having a baby of her own. I was worried for her, but so excited to have a new baby in the family! As for Natalie, her world was turning upside down. She was very involved in high school and had a huge circle of friends. She had a steady boyfriend at that point who luckily had a stable job and was ready to take on the responsibility of a family.  Even so, a baby at this point was going to change everything. While I was away at college, my nephew and godson, Shane, was born. My sister had a strong support system, as the two families pulled together to help her with baby Shane so that she could graduate high school.  They even supported her in getting her cosmetology license. (To this day, Natalie is my go-to person for everything fab and fashionable in the hair-styling industry!) Television shows ... Read More

Size Matters?

  It's no secret that women in our society obsess over the number that appears on every tag in every piece of clothing that we own. How could we not? Our society puts pressure on us to make sure that the numbers on the scale are down, our cholesterol count is down, our daily calorie intake is down, and even our "real age" must be down.  Essentially, we are a society that is driven by numbers--low numbers, specifically. I fall victim to this pressure as well. I sometimes feel as if the number on my clothes defines me as a person, when in reality it does no such thing. If I am out shopping and I am able to fit into something that is smaller than my normal size, I feel over-joyed, and this excitement can last all week. When the number is up I feel depressed, and when it moves down, I am happy. It's really a terrible cycle and a ridiculous thing to worry about, especially since, in one given day trying on clothes in a dressing room, I fit perfectly into the following sizes ...4, 10, S, and L!  So how much importance should I be giving to this issue? I feel like I have read countless magazines that advise something along these lines... "Don't pay attention to the size that you are wearing; all that matters is how the article of clothing looks on your body. Sometimes buying a size up will make you look slimmer overall. It's better to buy the size that fits better, than buying a size based on the number that is too small." I'm sure that we have all read articles ... Read More

More Than a Mamanista…

I had the rare chance the other night to watch one of my favorite shows of all time, Project Runway, without any interruptions from child, husband, or phone. What I really love about this show is how the contestants have to respond to situations and obstacles at a moment's notice,  creating beauty and elegance at the drop of a hat with limited or unusual raw materials. This is just like mothering, it suddenly occurred to me! And in that moment, I realized that the title of "mamanista" doesn't fully express what I want this blog or my parenting to be about.  It is not about the marriage of fashion and motherhood, but so much more than that! Becoming a mother and figuring out what works best for you and your family is a "project" within itself.  Then there are daily factors such as career, hobbies (fashion), activities (shopping), to add to the equation. Being able to master balancing it all is truly an art within itself. Therefore, I am more than just a "mamanista".  This blog is about me. About who I am. About the challenges I will face, the ups and down in life, and my passions. It is about my love of fashion, of my husband, of my son. About how I want to grow as a woman,  a wife, and a mother.  About the values with which I want to live my life.  And of course, my striving for perfection in all I do, even though I know perfection is unattainable. So yes, I have expanded my horizons. It is quite amazing how some alone time and some inspirational, fashion ... Read More

Boys, Boys, Boys

In order to get a better understanding of the person that I am, you must be introduced to "my boys" (aka my husband and son). They keep my life exciting, full of endless surprises, and have helped mold me into the person I am today. My husband, my Christopher, is a very strong individual who always helps me find my path. Over the years my sweet side has rubbed off on him, and his notorious "asshole" side has rubbed off on me. Therefore, together we have the perfect balance, and we make the perfect team. He is ambitious, hard-working, and he loves his family with his whole heart.  And whenever he thinks no one’s looking, he shows his sensitive side. Did I mention that he helps finance my shopping addiction? Chris doesn't really understand my love for designer labels, but he accepts it. My favorite words to come out of his mouth (aside  from "I love you," of course!) are "I really like that outfit in that store window-- why don't you go try it on?" My rambunctious three-year old Branden keeps me on my toes and has taught me the true meaning of unconditional love.  Although he has more energy than I know what to do with on most days, he is the most caring and polite child that I have ever met. Watching him learn, explore the world, and speak in full sentences are some of the happiest moments of my life. And he’s the funniest kid-- even on days that I’m ready to pull my hair out, he always makes me laugh. Whenever we are together as a family, he refers to my husband and ... Read More