Teen Parenting Advice: The Real Deal

Every Mama has heroes in their life. Not every one is lucky enough to call one of them her sister, and her best friend. I hope that her teen parenting advice not only helps, but inspires all of you, as well. My sister Natalie, at 17,  gave birth to the most beautiful baby boy, Shane David.  Being a teen mother is not glamorous or easy by any means, but with lots of support and motivation, it is possible to take control of the situation and still achieve your goals in life. I can honestly say that, at 22, my sister is one of the bravest, strongest, and most beautiful mamanistas that I know. I remember exactly where I was the moment that I found out that my baby sister was having a baby of her own. I was worried for her, but so excited to have a new baby in the family! As for Natalie, her world was turning upside down. She was very involved in high school and had a huge circle of friends. She had a steady boyfriend at that point who luckily had a stable job and was ready to take on the responsibility of a family.  Even so, a baby at this point was going to change everything. While I was away at college, my nephew and godson, Shane, was born. My sister had a strong support system, as the two families pulled together to help her with baby Shane so that she could graduate high school.  They even supported her in getting her cosmetology license. (To this day, Natalie is my go-to person for everything fab and fashionable in the hair-styling industry!) Television shows … [Read more...]

Size Matters?

  It's no secret that women in our society obsess over the number that appears on every tag in every piece of clothing that we own. How could we not? Our society puts pressure on us to make sure that the numbers on the scale are down, our cholesterol count is down, our daily calorie intake is down, and even our "real age" must be down.  Essentially, we are a society that is driven by numbers--low numbers, specifically. I fall victim to this pressure as well. I sometimes feel as if the number on my clothes defines me as a person, when in reality it does no such thing. If I am out shopping and I am able to fit into something that is smaller than my normal size, I feel over-joyed, and this excitement can last all week. When the number is up I feel depressed, and when it moves down, I am happy. It's really a terrible cycle and a ridiculous thing to worry about, especially since, in one given day trying on clothes in a dressing room, I fit perfectly into the following sizes ...4, 10, S, and L!  So how much importance should I be giving to this issue? I feel like I have read countless magazines that advise something along these lines... "Don't pay attention to the size that you are wearing; all that matters is how the article of clothing looks on your body. Sometimes buying a size up will make you look slimmer overall. It's better to buy the size that fits better, than buying a size based on the number that is too small." I'm sure that we have all read articles … [Read more...]

More Than a Mamanista…

I had the rare chance the other night to watch one of my favorite shows of all time, Project Runway, without any interruptions from child, husband, or phone. What I really love about this show is how the contestants have to respond to situations and obstacles at a moment's notice,  creating beauty and elegance at the drop of a hat with limited or unusual raw materials. This is just like mothering, it suddenly occurred to me! And in that moment, I realized that the title of "mamanista" doesn't fully express what I want this blog or my parenting to be about.  It is not about the marriage of fashion and motherhood, but so much more than that! Becoming a mother and figuring out what works best for you and your family is a "project" within itself.  Then there are daily factors such as career, hobbies (fashion), activities (shopping), to add to the equation. Being able to master balancing it all is truly an art within itself. Therefore, I am more than just a "mamanista".  This blog is about me. About who I am. About the challenges I will face, the ups and down in life, and my passions. It is about my love of fashion, of my husband, of my son. About how I want to grow as a woman,  a wife, and a mother.  About the values with which I want to live my life.  And of course, my striving for perfection in all I do, even though I know perfection is unattainable. So yes, I have expanded my horizons. It is quite amazing how some alone time and some inspirational, fashion … [Read more...]

Boys, Boys, Boys

In order to get a better understanding of the person that I am, you must be introduced to "my boys" (aka my husband and son). They keep my life exciting, full of endless surprises, and have helped mold me into the person I am today. My husband, my Christopher, is a very strong individual who always helps me find my path. Over the years my sweet side has rubbed off on him, and his notorious "asshole" side has rubbed off on me. Therefore, together we have the perfect balance, and we make the perfect team. He is ambitious, hard-working, and he loves his family with his whole heart.  And whenever he thinks no one’s looking, he shows his sensitive side. Did I mention that he helps finance my shopping addiction? Chris doesn't really understand my love for designer labels, but he accepts it. My favorite words to come out of his mouth (aside  from "I love you," of course!) are "I really like that outfit in that store window-- why don't you go try it on?" My rambunctious three-year old Branden keeps me on my toes and has taught me the true meaning of unconditional love.  Although he has more energy than I know what to do with on most days, he is the most caring and polite child that I have ever met. Watching him learn, explore the world, and speak in full sentences are some of the happiest moments of my life. And he’s the funniest kid-- even on days that I’m ready to pull my hair out, he always makes me laugh. Whenever we are together as a family, he refers to my husband and … [Read more...]