Let me preface first by saying that every-body has a different story to tell–no matter which body shape category you are grouped into. Not every silhouette follows “the rules” and most certainly is not perfect. You will have your trials and tribulations no matter which shape you have. Mine happens to be the apple shaped body–the one that carries the extra weight in the middle–and this is my story.
For me, I struggle every single day with my body and probably always will. The biggest struggle was during high school, when I still really didn’t know how to dress for my body shape, was struggling with extra weight, and had friends and family all pointing me in the direction of buying a size up to “cover” the belly. (I still cringe whenever I see my senior prom pictures.) I was always active, but for some reason just could never drop that extra 15 pounds that I really needed to lose.
I found out I was pregnant with Branden during the time in my early twenties whenever my body was just starting to agree with my efforts and I was losing some weight. Whenever Branden came along, I only gained 17 pounds during my pregnancy due to extreme sickness, and then somehow managed to drop that plus an extra twenty-five pounds after he was born. While this is not typical, I did have him while I was very young, so it was all part of my journey of learning how to dress for my apple shaped body and work with it instead of against it.
My biggest struggle today is that I feel that I am in that horrible “skinny-fat” category (Yes…it’s a thing!), where even though I am a small size 6 with skinny legs, I am short and my mid-section has that extra weight that makes me appear heavier than I actually am. It can be very frustrating and a great deal of the time I spend fearing that people looking at me are wondering “Is she pregnant or what?” Rather than admiring my style, which they may be, I just happen to be in a constant state of worry.
So what is my confession?
I confess that I struggle to be confident in my apple shaped body every day of my life. I spend more time worrying than I should, and am by far my biggest critic.
Tips For Mastering the Apple Shaped Body
While I worry about the way I am perceived in my apple shaped body, there are some things that I have learned since high school that have helped me overcome my lack of confidence and help me feel a bit better about my shape.
- Manage your weight. I’m sure you read that statement and thought “ouch,” but I’m not here to sugar coat things. Apple shaped bodies need to make sure they are always keeping an eye on their weight by eating healthy and being active. Obviously this goes true for every body shape, but for us apple ladies, every single extra ounce all goes straight to the middle!
- Love your layers. I start every outfit with a seamless, spandex camisole–it doesn’t need to be SPANX, my favorites come from Victoria’s Secret. Then over that goes the shirt I’m wearing that day, then often a cardigan and a belt–it’s a very flattering look on us apple ladies!
- Shop with a friend you trust. It’s interesting because, while there are a lot of things that don’t look great on the apple shaped body, there are also a lot of clothing items that you wouldn’t think would be flattering that actually are. So, take a great friend shopping with you and plan out a chunk of your day for trying things on. Don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zones from time to time. (I finally did with maxi dresses and now am obsessed!)
Do you have an apple shaped body? What’s your confession? (Like I said, we all have issues, but here at Project Motherhood we understand these things!!!)