“Mom, why are you talking mean to me?” Branden says to me from time to time.
“Because you aren’t listening, and I need to keep repeating myself,” is my typical response.
This is a word that I hoped would never come out of my little man’s mouth in reference to me, but it has happened.
It’s inevitable, and I am certain you ALL have been there before. So why does it sting so much? I truly madly, deeply believe it’s because we know that we are doing our best to make the right choices, but sometimes we quickly get upset and let our negative emotions shine through – and our kids pick up on it. Deep down we know that everyone says things they don’t mean, especially a child who doesn’t know how to fully express themselves yet.
I wish I could say that I was happy 100% of the time, but no one is. And our kids aren’t always angels that make us happy, and we get mad. I would be lying if I said that I didn’t get quickly irritated some days. We all know that parenting requires patience, but most days that allotment of patience gets spent mighty quickly.
So what is my quick solution for when you’re being called “mean” by your child?
There’s not a solution.
You must simply take a step back, a deep breath, and regain your poise. Sometimes we need to be mean in order to get our point across. Our kids need to know who the boss is, and if that results in them thinking we are mean for a day, then so be it. It will be over, eventually. And always, ALWAYS remember that you are NOT ALONE!
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